Creating Our Reality vs. Blame

There is a lot of commentary about how we create our own experience and our own reality, and therefore, the responsibility that comes along with that. When it comes to health issues especially, there is sometimes an inference that a person caused their own illness and therefore is to "blame".

Louisa Hay, among others, makes a point to NOT blame the individual - the issue is one of awareness. Habits without awareness will lead to relatively predictable patterns of thoughts, emotions, and physical reactions. In the case of illness or "dis-ease", holding these patterns of thoughts, emotions and postures can show up in the physical realm in a variety of ways. There are energetic and physical patterns that are consistent with certain thoughts and beliefs (see "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louisa Hay).

Here is an analogy - If I only made right turns on my car and never made a left turn, soon I would see more wear and tear on the right side. I may not be aware of the choices that I have until I learn that left hand turns are possible. You can "blame" me for only making right turns, but what does that add to the conversation?

Humans are a symphony of thoughts, emotions, physical structure and movement. In this mix, our emotions can play a role to impact dis-ease in many forms. For example, a person may have an old injury and always be guarding to prevent re-injury. They fear re-injury and hold their body in a certain way. Over time, the muscles, tendons, joints, etc. will respond accordingly. This is also true for athletes. They sculpt their bodies over time to match the sport that they play. In fact, the best athletes combine techniques that bring their mental, emotional, physical and even spiritual selves into alignment. Some athletes talk about how they were "destined" in their sport. Think Tiger Woods, Michael Jordan, Arthur Ashe, etc.

That is not blame, that is cause and effect.

It is easier for us to make these logical conclusions with structural parts (bones, ligaments) than the organs (heart, liver, etc.) or "foreign" substances in our bodies (tumors). We often carry the attitude that cancer "happens to us" and people engage in thoughts of "they are such a good person they don't deserve this". In reality, we are 100% cell and tissue and everything in our body is impacted by our thoughts, emotions, body movements, etc. It may be easier to see the cause and effect on our structure (we move a certain way) than to see the effect on our organs (e.g, stress, anger, depression). Another excellent book on this subject is "Diary of a Medical Intuitive" by Christel Nani RN PhD.

The emotional and mental origin of a pattern (whether we judge it to be "positive" or "negative") may be from an experience from yesterday or from childhood. The mental and emotional pattern is still held in the body whether the person remembers the triggering event or not. In fact, it may be MORE confusing if they don't remember the event, because it may seem to come from "no where". Which, of course, points back to awareness - of the triggering event or even if they are aware of the pattern at all.

More awareness = living in the current moment = more possibilities
= more choice = more opportunity for change.
There is no blame in this equation, only compassion.

With much love and gratitude, Mj XOXO

PS - many thanks to my wonderful friend Gail R, who forwarded me a newsletter and stimulated an email exchange on this topic. Thank you my friend!